The Relation of Shoes & Men

Everyone has their print. You know, the print that they saw when they were younger and bought an overwhelming amount of products of that print. For some its leopard, giraffe, zebra, stripes, polka dots, you name it. For me it was floral. I remember the first floral shirt I bought in second grade. Purple and pink and black flowers. I loved that shirt more than life. I love floral print anything. My wallpaper on my phone: floral. One of my phone cases: floral. I have floral frames, floral pillows. I have 3 pairs of floral pants, lots of floral scarves, floral shirts, and the big one, my floral shoes.

Three days ago, I was out shopping with my family in Park City. I have been in a major search of my senior pictures outfit. And the odds were lookin' bleak folks. I wasn't finding a dress, a shirt, anything. I was *this* close to giving up, when I walked into Express. And then, it was like angels were surrounding these shoes.

And you can see why I bought them within two minutes of finding them. But it wasn't just that these shoes were quite possibly the CUTEST shoes ever, I remembered something I had read about finding the perfect pair of shoes.

Samantha de Ruiter wrote an article called Finding the Perfect Pair of Shoes is Like Finding the Perfect Man, and she says this:

"Finding the perfect pair of shoes can sometimes be like finding the perfect guy. It could be a long and grueling process with a lot of second guessing and the occasional return. Other times, your gut instinct is right and you’ve found yourself a keeper first try. Either way, it’s a learning experience and it will open your eyes as to what you should look for next time." (Read the rest of the article here) And I honestly felt like that spoke to me on a spiritual level, no joke. While in pursuit of our perfect person, we tend to do the three Be's.

1. Be pretty: Our human nature tendencies make us believe that the only way to find someone attractive is if they are outwardly beautiful. WRONG. You are a beautiful human as long as you're trying to be. I have friends & family that believe that the only reason they have a significant other is for their personality. WRONG...AGAIN. If you have a beautiful heart, you are a beautiful person. One day someone is going to look at you like they have never seen the level of beauty that you possess, and it will be about your outer looks, but also your inner beauty as well.

2. Be Different: You want to be noticed for all your achievements, yet you don't. Trust me, there is NO ONE that you will meet that is a better personified definition of that than me. You want to be different, yet the same as everyone else. Which is NOT what the best thing always is. You can be different. In fact PLEASE be different. That's how you catch the one you want. Maybe that's releasing your giggle that you think is ridiculous, that someone else might think is adorable. Maybe it's how you can't tan to save your life, yet someone who loves you isn't going to notice that (or maybe they might & just don't say anything...) No matter what it is, remember that what makes you different also makes you endearing.

3. Be, well, Not You: Why is this the biggest one? Like WHY. For some reason, we believe that we have to be someone else to please someone. Not true. Maybe it's true for Mr. Wrong. But as far as Mr. As-Close-To-Right-As-Possible, it's not. We don't need to change our personality to please someone. That's so lame you guys. Please just be who the Good Lord made you to be. Don't try to change for someone who may or may not be the one for you. Don't change. You are you for a reason. Please don't try to be someone else, because this earth needs YOU. Not another version of you, just you.

One day you're going to find someone that makes you not want to be the Be's. One day it's all gonna make sense & you aren't gonna want to be anyone else but you. Let me know when that happens, you'll know when it happens for yourself. And maybe it's happened & maybe it hasn't. For me, it's currently in progress. I'm beginning to feel better about who I am because of the people I'm surrounding myself with. I'm a better person & I feel loved. It's taken a while to get here, but I know that there's someone out there who loves me. He wants me for who I am, and he will love my giggle after he kisses me or how I'm directionally challenged. No matter what he'll love me. And the same thing will happen for you too. Try on all your shoes, because eventually you'll find your perfect pair of floral shoes.

Much Love,

Sara Jean